What’s the funniest joke you’ve seen on social media this year? Take a few moments to remember it. Did you smile and feel a little warmer inside? I bet you did. Here’s what a lot of people haven’t realized: our emotions or moods are actually shaped by our thoughts. True story. What you think determines how you feel. How else do you explain how pissed … Continue reading What are Your Thinking Traps? – Tola Oladiji
Following my hit post on options for AS genotype couples, I’ve got a lot of questions and comments demanding information, medical options, alternatives or strategies for AS couples in Nigeria to have Sickle-Cell-Free children. So I’ve been making inquiries at fertility clinics. Continue reading Preimplementation Genetic Diagnosis in Nigeria: An Option for AS Genotype Couples
Discovering what our options were was difficult for me because the information is so dispersed, online and in real life. This post is your one-stop to answering the burning question “What do we do now? What are our options”. It’s a long one but I promise it’ll be worth your while. Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl 4. Adoption Child Adoption is still viewed with a lot of skepticism in most Nigerian families primarily because of the strong believe in a biological connection to be called ones child. Preferring the blood of my blood” or mini-me, most Nigerian men and women would just rather not explore this option. However, this perspective is changing with western exposure and … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Adoption
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl 6. No Children Yes, I know this is the road least travelled but a road none the less. Very rarely will an African couple opt to remain together and not have any kids at all. Love is hardly that serious for most Nigerians and in fact it is safe to say that we marry for children. Regardless, this is still … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – No Children
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl In conclusion, let me emphasise that I am not a medical personnel or any type of expert in the medical field. The information gathered in this post is based on years of research invested into try find a way around the genotype dilemma. That said, whichever option you and your partner settle for, I sincerely wish you both happiness. <<OPTION … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Conclusion
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl 5. Have Faith Well, I’ve heard many tales about people who prayed and fasted and God changed their genotype to AA. That didn’t work for me. There are couples who defied Option 1 above and couldn’t afford any of the others but believed that God will give them healthy children and He did. As a matter of fact, I know … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Have Faith
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl 3. Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD) Pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD) involves checking the genes and chromosomes of embryos created through IVF (invitro fertilization). The procedure involves undergoing normal invitro fertilisation (IVF) treatment to collect and fertilize your eggs. The eggs are fertilised in the lab with your partner’s sperm. After 2 to 3 days, the embryo made up of around cells, … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD)
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl If you are already pregnant or simply can’t afford Pre-implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD) which we will discuss next, this is may be for you. 2. Prenatal Diagnosis Chorionic villus sampling (CVS) This is a prenatal test where your baby’s health is checked using your placenta sample, taken through your vagina into your cervix or the through your abdominal wall and … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Prenatal Diagnosis
Edited by the Chocoholic Girl 1. Break Up You probably don’t want to hear this but I have to tell you this first. “If you love her, you have to leave her.” This is often most easily recommended, particularly by those who have never had to do it. It is presumably easier to find someone else who is not a carrier than to risk having … Continue reading Your Options as an AS Genotype Couple – Break Up
Our financial responsibilities aren’t letting up either, Despite the associated stigma, there’s no shame in asking for help to meet these obligations, especially in dire circumstances. The trouble is usually how to handle being indebted, avoiding embarrassments and paying back the loan. Continue reading Borrowing Etiquette: How to Deal with Debt
In the past 3 years, I’ve learnt a few things no one told me about blogging in Nigeria and this post is an attempt to share it with you. Continue reading 18 Things They Don’t Tell You About Blogging
Knowing how to knot a tie is a great skill for every woman; the wife, the mom, the fashion-forward or the curious – just looking to learn something new. Getting your kids ready for school or your man for work, or perhaps helping out a brother or friend? This post is for you. Continue reading How to Knot A Tie Like a Diva
My goal for the Red Confidential isn’t to be famous or as wealthy as Linda Ikeji (although it won’t hurt to be able to give you recharge cards and other monetary gifts monthly). It’s to add something small to the simple daily life of very ordinary people. Continue reading Happy New Year!
Now, I am all for doing the right thing and gender equality, but these fuel queues under this relentless sun is no place to find a lady. This means we too have to work our “magic”.
So, here are a few tips to help us get through this Continue reading Girl’s Guide: How to Survive Fuel Scarcity