When she said “I gave him everything, and I was everything he needed me to be” I knew I had to see this movie. This is another one with our favourite girl Taraji P Hanson, and she had me feeling all kinds of ways in this movie, and I’m not even sure how to articulate this. I can’t believe I started this post in April and still haven’t been able to round it up.
As usual if you haven’t seen the trailer, watch it so we can talk
Melinda Moore runs into Robert Gayle one rainy day on campus and it’s the start of their romance. But that’s just about where the cupcake love starts to go south.
Melinda’s mom dies and Robert Gayle is there for her. In hindsight Melinda says he took advantage of her, but in truth, she offered to take him home, asked to see inside his trailer and took him by the hand and led him to the bed where she voluntarily gave up her virginity.
She let’s on that her mom left her a lot of money and their house and in my opinion he gets lazy and dependent. She ends up paying for everything including his education while he focused on his research: a self-recharging battery.
She holds him responsible for making her by a car and taking a mortgage on her house which the now share as man and wife. She also holds him responsible for the loss of her ovaries to injuries sustained on the night she caught him cheating. Then he fries the house wiring with his experiment and they fall in debt. More appropriately, she falls in debt.
Meanwhile, my man still can’t get a job because he is a felon, which he never mentioned. Melinda has to work 2 jobs to pay the mortgage and keep them afloat. Melinda’s brothers-in-law step in to help save the house by offering him a life line. But he bungles that because of the long awaited call from a company offering to buy his self-recharging battery and then turns down the offer of $800,000.
Lets just say by this time, after 18 years of marriage and misery, Melinda is furious, her sisters are furious, her brothers-in-law are furious, I’m furious! And we all agreed it was time to cut this loser…although she didn’t need to call him that to his face.
We kick him out and get a divorce. He is apologizing and still professing his love, says he wants nothing (well, she has nothing either anyway) as he signs the papers and the divorce is final. But Melinda is heartbroken, she has given up on the love of her life.
Robert is now homeless and washing dishes religiously when his luck turns up and he is offered a multi-million dollar deal by Prescott, while allowing him to keep intellectual ownership of the battery project. He accepts. He is rich.
He pays Melinda $10,000,000 and buys back the family house she had lost. But that’s not enough for Melinda, she wants her husband back. But its too late; he is engaged to someone else who is pregnant with his child. Melinda feels cheated and blames everyone but herself and so the madness unfolds…
I feel like I’ve told you too much already but can we talk about how dangerous young love can be? You been with someone so long that you feel a sense of ownership and can’t accept it when they aren’t there anymore.
While watching this movie, I realised that most men don’t know how seriously we take the empty promises they make especially when we are young. Y’all need to be careful with making promises. You say forever and we believe you and take that shit seriously when we are in love. Love is irrational and a promise carries with it a false sense of entitlement.
Related: Proud Mary
We women need to stop listening to too many people’s opinion of our personal lives, especially family. They may be right but the final decision must always lie with you, or you’ll eventually hold them responsible for your mistakes and hate yourself for it.
When we give to people we love, it isn’t just the money and material things. It’s the time we can’t take back, the effort and emotional expense, the pieces of ourselves we can’t retrieve. Plus, this “build him business” and suffer for love is really not smart. Your partner is not property, even if you are crazy about each other. You don’t really make investments in a relationship, you make sacrifices. The difference is in the expectation of returns.
And for God’s sake, don’t stalk your ex on social media, ever. I’ve said this before in my post on fixing your broken heart. Nothing good comes from stalking. If Melinda didn’t degenerate to stalking, perhaps she wouldn’t have been driven to overboard.
What I love most about this movie is the balanced perspective of both characters and consequently, my inability to completely blame either party. Both Melinda and Robert are equal part villain and hero. They were both careless and often times went too far.
It’s a great movie but I won’t recommend it for a date-night or any other night for a couple. I feel like it is the kind of movie where couples will leave thinking about it and then arguing and… you know how these things go. Lord knows it had every man and woman arguing for either party that week.
Guy:”But she asked for the divorce. why couldn’t she be patient?”
Girl:“Ehen? And so? People that come back to there wives and beg them for a new start do they have 2 heads? He used her jor”?
Will I watch it again, to be honest, I’m not sure, only because it’s quite a grim tale of love turned dark, evolving into resentment and acrimony. The plot, acting and dialogue were fantastic but the story was too real and heart-wrenching.
Have you seen Tyler Perry’s Acrimony? Let me know what you think in the comments!
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